Because the New NAAFA is for men I, Fat Bastard, decided to break new
ground and publish an article about the abusive
wife/girlfriend/fiancee. Men get abused as much as women get abused but
men rarely have anyone to turn to for help or to validate their feelings.
Enter Dr Tara Palmatier.
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Dr Tara J. Palmatier, PsyD |
It takes the special insight of a woman are real womanly woman to break
down in logical terms just how cruel evil and nasty some bitches can
be. Dr Tara J. Palmatier, PsyD hit the nail on the head. You may be
asking how does this apply to fat men. It doesn't most of us surf porn,
eat and beat off for our pleasure. We know what a hassle most women can
be and even though sheep can't cook Hardees can. Sure, all men would
like a woman like Tara J. Palmatier, sanity is damn sexy but the odds of
finding a sane women especially one who's fat are slimmer than an
anorexic super model.
My advice is to all men. If you don't like being fat that's fine. If you
are married to a hot woman who is sane that's great but for the rest of
you they make porn, hookers and strippers for a reason and fast food is
not just for fat girls.
The following article and quiz was created by the lovely and erudite Dr Tara J. Palmatier, PsyD
LINK TO HER SITE
Is She a Crazy Bitch? A Quiz by Dr Tara J. Palmatier, PsyD
This isn’t a rhetorical question. If you’ve asked yourself more than once, “
Is my girlfriend/wife/fiancee a crazy bitch?” as a clinical psychologist, I’m here to tell you the answer is, “
Yes. Diagnostically speaking, she may very well be a crazy bitch.“
A ‘crazy bitch’ insidiously makes you feel like the unstable, angry person.
You soon doubt your interpretation of events and experiences. In lots
of cases, this type of woman may have a personality disorder, such as
Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD),
Narcissistic Personality Disorder
(NPD) or Antisocial Personality Disorder or some combination of the
Cluster B disorders. In other cases, they may not qualify for diagnoses,
but it doesn’t really matter.
Abusers are highly resistant to change
regardless of whether they have a personality disorder or not.
Here’s a quiz to find out if your wife, girlfriend or ex is an abuser:
- Does she fly into rages without warning over relatively trivial matters like a web page loading too slowly?
- Are you always the scapegoat/bad guy whenever she’s frustrated, disappointed or just plain bored?
- Do her friends (that is, if she has any) describe her as a “drama queen?”
- Does she describe herself as a drama queen? If so, congrats. You found one with a modicum of self-awareness.
- Is her lipstick a little too red? Is it applied like theater makeup and a tad crooked?
- Did sex begin with an earth shattering bang and fizzle into infrequent, transactional and conditional sex?
- Is she a black-and-white, all-or-nothing thinker?
- Do you lie to your family, friends and colleagues about what goes on at home?
- Do you find yourself making excuses to your family, friends and colleagues for her inexcusable behavior?
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- Do you find yourself walking on eggshells around her?
- Does she hate your friends and family and become angry or tearful when you spend time with them?
- Is she pathologically jealous?
- Does she project her feelings onto you? For example, she’s yelling and raging and then accuses you of being angry.
- Does focus solely on her emotional experience while exhibiting little or no empathy for yours?
- Have you distanced yourself from friends and family because of your relationship?
- Does she place you on a pedestal one day only to tear you down the next day? “I’ve never known anyone like you
before. You’re so wonderful!” Next day: “You’re the devil! You’re the most selfish bastard I’ve ever met! You don’t love me!”
- Did she change her identity after she landed you? For example, when
you first met her she was a sexy, adventurous, sweet ballbuster; now,
she’s afraid of her own shadow, has no outside interests and goes
ballistic if she has to do anything without you.
- Does she put you into “no win” situations in which nothing you do is good enough and you’re guaranteed to fail?
- Does she exhibit stalker behaviors? This usually
occurs during the courtship phase or when she senses you’re about to
make a break for it. For instance: Calling and hanging up? Calling over
and over and over until you answer the phone? Does she wait outside your
home, uninvited, until you arrive? Does she show up at places she know
you’ll be, also uninvited? Has she tried to get close to your friends in
inappropriate ways?
If you answered “yes” to more than two of these questions, you may be
involved with a female abuser. You’re not alone.
They’re everywhere.
Most of the men who ended up in my therapy office were there
because they were experiencing stress, depression or anxiety as a result
from being in a relationship with an emotionally abusive woman.
Ironically, most of the time they were shamed and pathologized into
seeking counseling by these women. Never mind that most of the symptoms
my male patients experienced were a direct result of being in a
relationship with an abuser who most likely had one of the abusive
personality disorders
If you think you may be involved with an abusive woman, good luck.
They’re typically treatment resistant and they never really get any
better. If you choose to stay in the relationship, I strongly recommend
you educate yourself about the signs and symptoms of abuse, personality
disorders and learn some basic behavioral management skills.
By: Dr Tara J. Palmatier, PsyD
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I, Fat Bastard would ask some questions and share some of my own thoughts and share some of my wisdom with the good doctor.
I, Fat Bastard, have butted heads with the fat feminists on many occasions. Like other womyn with disordered thinking they too like to portray themselves as tragic victims as part of their male bashing sequelae. I think that these angry fat girls are worse. One thing that I don't think you, Dr Palmatier have considered fully enough is the hormonal component. Hormonally speaking, fat girls/womyn are a mess. Their insulin is all over the place, along with PCOS and a host of other hormonal anomalies such as estrogen dominance. An estrogen fueled woman can be hell on wheels.
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A womanly woman! The kind that men want to see and feminists can never be. |
In my casual observation I have concluded that when it comes to crazy, white females win the gold, silver and bronze medal with Asian woman finishing a distant fourth. Except for Oprah, Black women seem to me to be more stable and more pleasant, and while culture may be partially responsible ie the bitch slap, for the more stable and amiable Black woman I strongly suspect that there is a hormonal component. Think about it. Black woman don't get osteoporosis. This is due to their slightly different hormonal mix. There is IMO something to be said for the idea of the strong Black woman. There is a 25% White ad mixture in African American women but I suspect that if their mental health were to be compared with their African counterparts the pure African would be mentally healthier.
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Tell her to STFU! |
If I, Fat Bastard, were to be on a long bus trip surrounded by a bunch of cackling hens I would much prefer the company of Black women. I have no sexual preference for one race or another but I think that White men are missing out on a gold mine of sanity by not dating and marrying Black women.
As to feminism...
I don't think feminism is the cause. Feminism is the symptom and it has made being a bitch more fashionable. Shrews, battle axes, fish wives, and the old ball & chain were around long before feminism. Radical feminism has just made male bashing more fashionable, politically correct and has taught women how to play the victim but feminism would never have become what it has if its leaders, disciple and adherents were organically mentally ill. It's the chaotic cycling of fucking hormones!
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Victims of the sick sick sick "religion of peace" |
When I see the real oppression and brutalization of Middle Eastern women I think, "WHERE THE FUCK ARE THE FEMINISTS." Until you feminists start doing some work to liberate the truly oppressed people of the world you all need to STFU!
My final question to Dr Palmatier is what happens to the most innocent and defenseless victims of these psycho monsters -- the children?